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Aug. 28th, 2008 | 08:33 am
posted by: sprtwrid in badparents

Ok, I dont know how mny of you know the background on my current situation in my townhome. The basic story is that In may 07 our toilet broke and started overflowing on its own while we were sleeping, running for no more than 5 hours before i realized i heard water rushing. Enough water hit the floor that is leaked through the floor into my living room, then through that to my basement. Its been this long, and the complex has not fixed it (im currently in contact with a lawyer about this).
The bad parent portion of this is that I know that the prior tenents next door were evacuated out of their apartment for mold that was black. I was never alerted to whether it was black mold or not. The new tenants have been telling me they have mold showing up in their back bedroom (the same room that the prior tenant had disintegrate while vacuuming only to discover the mold was covering the entire inside wall)

Over the past year, I have been suspecting black mold being an issue in here. I can see any, but im sire if i open up the gaping hole in my ceiling, it will be rather nasty in there. I've only just now called my doctors office to ask if there is a test they can do to find out if we have been exposed to black mold or not. A post over in parenting101 reminde me today that i wanted to look up the symptoms again for being exposed, and i suddenly realized: the symptoms listed on that particular link have been more and more common over the past months.
Both of my kids have been getting more and more allergy problems. My son has been diagnosed with possible asthma (but no inhaler yet since antihistamines seem to be doing the trick of controling the weezing/coughing spells) Both kids keep breaking out with mystery rashes that pretty much look like bug bites, but have been called hives by the ER and their doc. Going back through my journal, and comparing it to the weather in my migraine log, I have found that they always break out when its most humid (when i get the really nasty migraines). Both kids have complained about headaches, fall down a lot (so i assume they are dizzy) and my son gets downright weird when its really bad.

So, I'm sitting here waiting for the doc to call back to tell me if there is a test they can run (will call the pede for the kids soon) feeling guilty because I never really looked into getting a mold check done because I trusted my complex to be able to tell me one way or another. We are all always sick, so there is something going on.

So, any good info on black mold and its symptoms? KNow any way to test yourself for exposure? Should i have someone watch the kids so i can rip out a square of my ceiling and see whats back there? I hate not knowing :(

EDIT: docs are concerned after hearing a bit more of the sitaution and know im talking to a lawyer. Going in tomorrow for my blood test and consultation.
for those who wanna read up on the entire situation: http://community.livejournal.com/law_questions/620216.html

its unlocked and has all of my original posts and whats going on now. My reason for this post is i feel bad knowing that if there is a mold problem it could be why my kids are as sick as they are now, and i waited so long to get this checked out.

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Heather

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from: lil_tree_frog
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 01:20 pm (UTC)
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none of that makes you a bad parent

it makes your landlord a bad landlord, but that's all

personally, i would look for new accommodations ASAP, I know it sucks when you have to move with kids, but if it's already taken a year to fix obvious damage, how long will it take to fix not so obvious damage

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Jennifer Dharmasurya

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from: jynxgirl
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 01:21 pm (UTC)
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http://moldtestkit.com/blackmold.html
You can buy test kits.
To find out if it truly is stachybotrys chartarum, you are going to have to get tests done on the spores and your blood by an accredited lab.

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sprtwrid

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from: sprtwrid
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 02:34 pm (UTC)
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oooh those symptoms werent listed on the other site. We all are having issues with quite a few of them.. though most of them i was blaming no my constant migraines (memory loss, and sheer stupid moments). Thanks. Im going to write out a list of the symptoms that I have been having, as well as a list for my kids doc of theirs.

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Lauren Alexis

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from: twinklieetoes
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 01:58 pm (UTC)
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i'm not sure what you can do to test for it, but if it comes back that that's what's causing your family to be sick, i would sue the SHIT out of the landlord.

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sprtwrid

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from: sprtwrid
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 02:37 pm (UTC)
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totally intend to sue if i can prove we are having medical issues related to any mold, let alone black mold.

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Eloren

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from: eloren
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 02:07 pm (UTC)
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Anytime you have that much water damage, there's almost certain to be mold of some kind unless the water damaged portions were totally replaced, which in your case it sounds obvious that they were not.

Black mold isn't anything to mess around with, and based on the "responsiveness" of your landlord to sorely needed and long overdue repairs, I'd second the motion to be looking for a new place to live. It's a hassle, but your health is worth it. Since your landlord won't even fix damage to your place, expecting them to inform you about possible health hazards seems to be giving them a lot more credit than they are due.

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sprtwrid

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from: sprtwrid
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 02:23 pm (UTC)
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they told me that there was no risk right after the original damage. I the full issues I am having with them about it in my journal.. from beginning to end (well, i havent written about the lawyer thing yet, as that just started monday, and i wont know if they are helping me until friday).

http://community.livejournal.com/law_questions/620216.html

warning... lots and lots of reading with multiple links and such. My doc office just called back to ask why i am asking for the test and are debating if they should offer the blood test or if i should be seen before ordering the test. I told them my main concern was to find out if there was a test, so i could consider it for myself, but definitely talk to the kids doc about getting them tested. They were a bit shocked I have waited so long too.

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Amanda

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from: failstoexist
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 08:25 pm (UTC)
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could this be related to the really awful migrained you were (are?) having? I mean, since headaches are a symptom, could it be making yours worse? I hope you're doing better and that the mold problem gets fixed so you can all be healthy!

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sprtwrid

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from: sprtwrid
date: Aug. 28th, 2008 10:37 pm (UTC)
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it could be, its part of the reason im gonna go to the doctor tomorrow.

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Herkko Rosvo-Ronkainen

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from: missingkeys
date: Aug. 29th, 2008 11:32 am (UTC)
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That's really arse. :/ I lived in a house with a black mold problem for six months or so. I started off really fit, but by the end I could hardly walk up the hill to get to the house because my lungs just couldn't handle it.

I hope you're all okay!

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stressedsingmom

Moms aren't perfect

from: stressedsingmom
date: Apr. 17th, 2009 02:59 pm (UTC)
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I always tell my sister-in-law that even though she is one of those moms that thinks that she is perfect, that u can't always do everything right. Sometimes, when u r so busy with the everyday tasks, we overlook things. It doesn't make u a bad parent. Just a busy one. Try not to be so hard on yourself. At least u r doing something about it now.

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sprtwrid

Re: Moms aren't perfect

from: sprtwrid
date: Apr. 17th, 2009 04:51 pm (UTC)
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When I saw your comment, I knew it had to be an older post, since I really do not use lj anymore.

We have moved out of that place, and the kids are doing much better. I have had a few life changing events, and view things a lot differently than I did. We are much better at rolling with the punches when things go wrong now.

Thanks

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